2022.01.21 01:57 Creepy_Ratio_9308 now that its been a few months, how do you guys feel about halloween kills?
2022.01.21 01:57 Rockwood420 Ich_iel
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2022.01.21 01:57 KaptinNiceGuy Scrubs - Hold On Hope — Guided By Voices. Love this band/Song and it’s coincidentally in one of my favorite shows.
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2022.01.21 01:57 -Benjamin_Dover- How would you rank the following forms of evil based on how shitty they are? Crimes against Children, Crimes Against animals, Ending a human life, Slavery/Racism, War crimes. How would you rank those Crimes based on how shitty they are and why?
2022.01.21 01:57 feellikeatrashbag I never thought I'd throw in the towel
super long post on a throwaway acct. Seeking advice from anyone who cares to give it (including telling me my username checks out)
My wife (41F) and I (36M) have been sleeping apart for over 6mo. We were happily married 13y ago and have had some great times together. We had/have similar religious values and never considered divorce as an option. We built a home together and made it ready for a family.
We've gone through some hard times together, too: personality differences between her and my family (she shares very few interests with them and doesn't do small talk...holiday get togethers are hard), infertility, working night/evening hours at times, financial crunches while she goes back to school, etc. A little over a year ago, we became foster parents to 2 toddlers (who are still with us).
While it was jumping into the deep end to go from a childless home to 2 toddlers, we managed. She has a demanding job and because of the pandemic, I transitioned to WFH fulltime. Towards the beginning of fostering, her schedule was 70+ hours a week, and I did a lot of the parenting. I never really wanted to be a primary caretaker, but figured this was just for a season, and we could get through it. The worst part was when her schedule got lighter, my experience didn't improve.
I began to feel like a prisoner in my own home. I could go on and on about the rules that she layered on me & them in order to "keep them safe" (those phrase now makes me cringe every time I hear it), but suffice it to say that overbearing is an understatement. She clearly has some anxiety around providing a stable home/safe environment, but she's able to justify each rule b/c she is medically trained (and sees all the kids with the worst injuries at work). But the more controlling she got--whether legitimate or absurd--the more I started to feel like I was being suffocated and wanted out.
One weekend last summer while the kids were napping (during which my wife insisted that we had to be absolutely silent, so we would go downstairs in a bedroom on the other side of the house huddled around an iPad because a TV would be too loud), she could tell something was off and got me to admit that I may not want to be married anymore. I had felt that way at times even before fostering but had never let myself say it out loud, much less to her, until that day.
After that conversation, she chose to start sleeping in a separate room to give me space to sort through things. I went to see a Biblical counselor and the end result was a letter where I told her some things that were bothering me about the marriage. I'll admit there was some blame in the letter, but I also apologized for making (or going along with) some of the decisions that lead us to this point. Unfortunately, her takeaway was that I was blaming her for all of my unhappiness.
So - I stopped going to that counselor and spent more time soul-searching. We got a week of respite from the kids (she coordinated it, and I thanked her), and I said I wanted to spend the time rebuilding our friendship that we both agreed had vanished. By then, we were barely roommates who were taking care of a couple of kids. But she was emotionally unable/unwilling to share what was going on in her life and just wanted to press me for permanency so she could plan her future. The week came and went with no progress, followed by a couple months of the same.
I started seeing another counselor (LCSW) and got my wife to join me. Through therapy, we studied the enneagram and found out she's a 1 (perfectionist) and I'm a 3 (performer). Her driving force is a voice in her head that says things can and should always be better; mine is a constant pursuit of success and achievement. Funny enough, a potential pitfall of 1's & 3's in a relationship is lack of intimacy as each pursues their own goals.
I had communicated to her in the prior months that there was a consistent thread of me feeling unsupported in what I pursue, whether it be physical health (I got heavy into fitness for a while, she said I was "starting to look ugly" when I gained some muscle...I'm over 6' tall and stayed under 200lbs to give a reference), starting a business (I had to pester her b/c I didn't want to do it without her blessing, but she saw it as a "waste of time"), education (my field of work has certifications galore, and I starting racking them up...it took less than a year of studying before she asked me when I was going to stop), social life (she would make me feel guilty for each rare night out with friends), etc. She did support some things, but it's almost like they had to be worthy of her approval...and there's not much that does. And as much as the enneagram is supposed to help you understand and accept other people's worldview, it just articulated to me that her perfectionism that I've grown to despise is a core part of who she is.
So she joined 2 sessions and told the counselor that she has clarity about what she wants, but just needs me to decide, and it's well-past time to do so. She said she'd be fine whatever decision I make. I do agree that it's an overdue decision, though it's now been another month since then. I went to a couple more sessions alone. Started to realize some of the things I need to work on (such as feeling loved outside of my accomplishments), but none of the introspection has brought back any feelings for my wife. I feel like I've supported her in her career change for the past decade but somehow my pursuits aren't worth the same support from her.
All the while, we've grown to love the foster kids as if they were our own. I'm devastated at the thought of not being in their life, but I couldn't handle raising them by myself. I told my wife today that I'm going to call their case worker and see what needs to happen with the kids if I move out for a while. The house is in my name, but if for some reason the state allows the kids to stay with just one of us, they would need to remain in the same home.
My wife isn't a bad person, and on paper, we're a great match. Also, I believe that marriage is a commitment that should surpass any other type of bond on this earth...meaning to sever that bond is unnatural. But all remaining feelings of love have (and even the ability to choose to love her has) evaporated over these past 6mo. I just can't see a happy future with her anymore. I think it's time to move on and let her do the same.
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2022.01.21 01:57 perryw Around 14 years old and "big boned" but she still loves playing with new boxes
2022.01.21 01:57 No-Roll-2045 My first win
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2022.01.21 01:57 corn--student CHEM 1570 instead of 3570/3580?
2022.01.21 01:57 SnooCapers6965 How to prep for moving into a new home?
Long story short, my(20f) long term boyfriend and I split and at the end of this lease, I’ll be moving out on my own. So far, I’ve made a list about needs categorizing them by rooms/ misc. What advice do you have to offer or what do you wish you knew about moving in general/ first time moving?
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2022.01.21 01:57 -nitrogue Help! Engine code P1083 and p0171 on my e46 had shown up. My car is essentially running to lean, (not enough gas getting into engine, or, too much air)
Hi all. Currently On my E 46, I have error code P0171 and P1083 which means that my air fuel mixture is too lean. I am wondering if anybody has encountered this issue. It could be a bad injector, a bad fuel pump, a vacuum leak or etc. any advice? Also when my RPMs drop below 1000 my red oil light comes on and turns off after going above 1000 RPM. It’s weird because my oil level is fine. When idling at around 600 RPM, it has a rough idle and drops between five and 600 RPM every two seconds. That’s all I know. Any advice is appreciated!
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2022.01.21 01:57 throwaway827293829 they deleted their tiktok
2022.01.21 01:57 lolanii ursala just gave me the exact same dress that i’m wearing…. 😹
2022.01.21 01:57 _kiminara /zocken Subdirect Statistics
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2022.01.21 01:57 r4sp6erry Daily gifts - won't un add you when we hit best friends lol
2022.01.21 01:57 Budget-Song2618 The Smearing Of Emma Watson.
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2022.01.21 01:57 Col_Korn22 Is there a way to clear your search history on Westlaw Edge? I am an idiot!
I am an ignoramus.
I'm working on a memo about fair use and the Copyright Act.
I thought it would be interesting to look for keywords like "Camila Cabello" and "Fifth Harmony," to see if they have any cases related to that.
It turns out I can't cite any cases that Camila Cabello was in, BUT she was sued once, and that case is still pending?
I have to share my screen sometimes in that class. I don't want anyone to see that I was using Westlaw to do research on Camila Cabello.
BUT I don't know how to clear my history.
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2022.01.21 01:57 Socialinfluencing Btc will ' NEVER ' see 20k again, proof that you do not listen to the herd.
Yes, I'm aware that Btc is currently way beyond 20k but at this stage I can't see anyone other than complete shills promote this infinite growth sentiment. Nothing is so valuable or so miraculous that it can just keep rising in value no matter what.
For some perspective, food and fuel prices have skyrocketed in the last 2 years due to this pandemic we're in. Whether you believe the virus is real or whatever matters little since the economic consequences have been real. People will choose their rent and other such basic needs as more valuable 100% of the time if there's enough pressure, and the world is uncertain atm.
It may just be institutions screwing with people, but I can guarantee you that the current market isn't held up by average joe investors, they have long fled the scene. The average person can't buy a dip and view a 30k+ Btc as a ' bargain. ' If you're Michael Saylor you're jumping for joy, but many everyday people are cutting their losses and waiting for this cycle to play out, nothing complicated.
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2022.01.21 01:57 anonymous-addict9 Conversation with the left
Why is it so hard to just have an honest and conducive conversation with anyone on the left? If I state facts about certain things, they instantly blow up and get butthurt. I'm just trying to have a conversation but it's impossible with them it seems.
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2022.01.21 01:57 TheWheelGatMan ESP shorter than factory length Beretta barrel legal?
I have a 92x performance defensive that I love using to shoot IDPA and I eventually want to get a Jarvis custom fit barrel but I want the flush fit 4.6in they offer and not the full length 4.9in I know I can use aftermarket barrels but I don't want to shorten it and accidently make it illegal for ESP as I want to eventually do matches beyond my local tier 1 matches with this pistol.
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2022.01.21 01:57 Aptx1001 I think CoD will get a major blow if Microsoft removes it from PlayStation, here is why
PlayStation, has over 130 Million users. Call of Duty sells around 10M copies on PlayStation. How should this effect Sony in any way? Also, Call of Duty sells much much better on PlayStation, thanks to the far bigger playerbase, than on Xbox. Taking it away from PlayStation, it will get a gigantic gut punch imo. Even when let’s say and go big, 30% of the 10 million (not all are returning but let’s be nice), buy an Xbox for CoD or change the platform, it will shock cods playerbase. People are not seeing problems, til they arrive. I hate that.
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2022.01.21 01:57 reddysmith07 SOUTHWEST AIRLINES $29 FLIGHTS
2022.01.21 01:57 Pudgehog Imma just say it, we ain't getting anything from Em tonight.
2022.01.21 01:57 ScrabbleGem New York City by Pierre Belvedere, 1000 Pieces
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2022.01.21 01:57 LeggyAnna Do you like my tights 😘
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2022.01.21 01:57 Jamesrobertga Important things to consider for Roofing Projects - Roof Repair in Duluth GA
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